Seems that a previous Rant about how dating sucks has been highly ranked by the major search engines. What I mean is that if you search for “dating sucks” using any of the three biggest search engines, you’ll end up here.
I’m not sure how I felt about that… I mean, do I want to be known for my cynical [yet accurate] view of dating?
Then I re-read the post. Then I considered some of the recent tribulations I’ve had during my most recent dating adventure. And the weekend that a fellow bar patron scared off a woman while trying to “help” me along. And the angst I had during the week from all of the drunken couples at the local bar on Halloween.
Meh.
The capper was a recent post I saw on Craigslist.
Yeah, I check out CL from time to time. It’s the easiest of all online dating sites. Some times it’s scary but W4M is usually OK – nothing like the scary CAS or creepy ERS. Cheapest, too, and I say that while also subscribing to two other paid-for sites. Yeah, you heard me: two. When I complain about the pain of dating, I do so from experience. I’m not the type of person that will do nothing and complain about something. If I complain, I’m working to make it better. If I don’t complain, I’m either happy or I’ve accepted the limitation. So I’ll continue to complain.
The ad in question… it says picture and there is one – a grainy, long distance shot of an ass in what look like denim shorts – although it could be a skirt – with the face blacked out. This interests me. I could completely understand not putting your face out there on the front line. CL gets a lot of traffic from all walks of life: parents, coworkers, etc. I’m OK with that. But then you choose an ass shot? Uh, OK.
Then I read the ad…
My expectations are WAY too high!! – 34
Exactly what my posting title says….i am so very demanding by most men’s standards who are not in love! But arent my demands normal of people who truely love each other??
My demands are as follows:
If we were in a LTR, Id want your time, Id want you to be sensual but damn hot, energetic & liberal in bed, Id want you to be very good looking to me and healthy, Id want you to have a steady job, Id want you to call or text me daily if we cannot see each other that day, Id want your attention, Id want you to NOT want me to sleep with others, Id want you to spend a bit of your time with your guy friends, Id want you to consider my feelings in all that you do, Id want you to share a home with me eventually, Id want you to treat me like the woman that I am, Id want you to show me off to your friends, Id want you to protect me, Id want you to show me affection instead of buying me random gifts, I want you to ask me how my days was and listen when I tell you, I want you to want to meet my family, I want you to be on time when we make plans, I want you to make plans with me and keep them, Id want you to share hopes, dreams, goals, aspirations, hardtimes and goodtimes with me.
I will be yours forever…..as long as you are always all (or 95%) of the above, do (almost) everything I want you do to. I would do all of the above for you in kind! I dont care how much money you have, how many third world countries you have been to or lived in, dont care about your boat or your brothers boat that you borrow, or how much money you are worth. I dont care if you drive a Hummer or a Ford sedan (but please drive something with a motor that works well), I dont care if you live in an apartment, a house, or a mansion (but please live in one of those…preferrably without a family member), I dont care if you own 5 houses in Bellevue or 1 house in Tacoma, I dont care about a Platinum Gold 5 carat Diamond ring or a white gold band until you can afford what you want me to have, I dont care if we dont ever have the picket fence (but if you know how to build one that is a bonus)…as long as you show your love me and love that I show my love for you and we can run with it, THAT is worth more to me than any material. Without the actions, the relationship is worthless and so is your money!!!
That said, I dont want anyone who is a liability to me, I am STABLE. If you are a lazy bumm with no goals you are working towards, do not reply. I am not going to be your sugar momma. I already have dependants and dont need one that is over the age of 25!!!
oh and another thing I dont care about….and I dont care about your hate mail because of this posting….
I am on the left. face pic for pic, if Im interested. No pic, no reply from me. Physical attraction first, its only natural. duh.
Im really not a bitch, or maybe I am, but I know this….Im a woman who knows what she wants. I will wait until I find the above or I will stay single, fine with me! Its better than being in a loveless, sexless relationship. Have a super day!
The ad sorta speaks for itself. In fact, I’ve only got three general comments, in reply to this ad:
– If you have to say that you’re “really not a bitch,” and your ad says “demand” three times, then guess what: you’re a bitch.
– If you have a bunch of brand names in your demands, and you say you don’t care about money, you’re lying. Maybe you’re just lying to yourself, but it’s still a lie, and I feel bad for any guys that believe it and then reply.
– If you ever expect to get a diamond ring, you’ll want to know that there’s no such thing as “Platinum Gold”, white gold is no more expensive than yellow gold (but thanks for “settling”), and the quality, color, and clarity of a diamond is a hell of a lot more important than the carats. And if someone chooses to propose to you, you should take what you’re given and like it.
Ya know… I think I want to be the top seeded site for “dating sucks”. I mean people do talk to me about it all the time. Either for advice, empathy, sympathy, or just general venting. I don’t think my logical mind is compatible with the dating scene either, but it’s still a point of view to see things through. Especially since my typical advice is that of bullshit. All things have a level of bullshit associated with them. Jobs, relationships, hobbies – anything. The secret to being happy in life is finding the level of bullshit that you can live with and then live with it. It’s as simple as that.
For the record, while it was a decent enough ass, but there’s no way that it would make me want to live with this level of bullshit.
Yeesh.
She’s a bitch. Everyone knows that you get great, awesome men by being their sugar momma.
Except that it sounds like she expects a Sugar Daddy without acting like a kept woman… I don’t see the up side of it, which is why it confuses me.
How many times have we had this conversation. Helooooo…it’s craigslist. Like sifting for gold, remember?
It is good for entertainment though. Read the housing wanted section sometime too. I’m evil, so it really makes me laugh.
I know, I told YOU that. :) But she’s still a bitch on *any* site!
All women are bitches…QUEEN bitches. :)
Uh. You are a woman…?
@_@
Ass.
Hey, I was just reminding you!
Well, look at Paul McCartney, even at his mature age, he’s still looking to be controlled by a woman. He’s clearly not an independent person.
All and all, I think a lot of modern fellows, i.e. the opposite of a John Wayne/Clint Eastwood type, more like Dave Beckham, are p*ssywhipped. They really can’t stand up to a woman’s demands and want to be subservient. I presume it’s the whole “seeing escorts is immoral” type of brainwashing that’s afflicted most guys who might have otherwise, have shunned marriage for a freer lifestyle.
Typically, I see only 1 in 5 ‘OK’ marriages out there. The other 80% are unhappy; let me repeat, unhappy, near dysfunctional, and clearly one sided. The fact that the divorce rate is a mere 50% is a miracle.